Day 122

Today, since it is the holidays and i am love love love giving gifts (much better than getting them). I asked everyone to share a fave gift they gave someone.  There were a lot of good responses. There are some truly kind people out there.    My fave gift that I gave this year is chalkboard wine glasses. I sprayed the bottoms of wine glasses with chalkboard paint and put a piece of chalk and gave to my fave wine drinking friends.  So stinking cute!  I had fun doing them and picking out the glasses for each person.

Oh and as I was writing I came across this and just thought, wow so true!

Great advice on this site: http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve; then heck no, you can’t "be friends." A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. 

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.

You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Day 102

"Good looks attracts the eyes. Personality attracts the heart. If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you won't give up. If you give up, you're not worthy."




So lately I have heard lots of people complain about boys who say they like them but they just do not put forth the effort. No one is a mind reader. if you want her, let her know. Make the effort. A girl should not be the one asking the boy out. Woo her show her she is special. Make her feel like she is the only one and she will treat you that way in return. Do not just say things, do things. Ask her out, make time to spend with her, especially when she tells you she wants to see you. Make it happen. If you need guidance watch Millionaire matchmaker. She will totally school you in the ways of making girls feel special. And really if you have a happy girl who knows you care and feels how special you think she is, the right one will make you feel that same way back. But if you do not put forth the effort. She knows you are not worthy of hers!

Day 62

Someone told me I needed to start writing about my thoughts of the day

Todays is: Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

I may be the girl that you do not always see get what you see, but I will always tell you the truth
I am one who would rather ask forgiveness than permission, though in relationship I am all about the communication. I think a key element of why the last relationship didnt work is he thought I was his mom. That he had to hide things. I never want anyone to feel like they cannot tell me something about them. It is funny, I am the one everyone comes to with their secrets. Everyone but the person who said he loved me the most. Kinda sad but so grateful I had the lessons I did for the relationship. I think everyone takes things away. I remember fireman.. goodness 13 years old and jealous jealous jealous.. why be jealous? That is silly just be happy with you and all else will fall into place.
Communication is key. to an relationship
You cannot make someone love you or their self
I love who I am.. if you do not love me for my faults and all..you can leave
I am silly I am loveable I am sometimes moody but I always mean well
Life is good!

Also had a fun night with J. I cannot wait for her little bundle of joy to get here. I love all the laughs we share. She is one amazing lady!


Every exciting weekend. D will be in town and the goonies is playing under the bridge. YAY super excited

Day 61

Wow a good first date was had last night. Nothing fancy just two people sitting at an outdoor bar talking. We has so much in common and just kept talking.. 3 hours later we only stopped talking due to we both had other commitments. Cannot wait to see if this progresses.

I also have a few more in the pipeline.. I swear it is feast or famine.. but hey at least I am happy.... no matter what life throws my way :)

Day 36

Day 36

My battery charging connection to my mac is fried and i am waiting on an external battery charger.. so not much time for blogging.

My crush on CK has increased dramatically.. He is all wrong for me in theory.. 3 kids, going through a nasty divorce, in law enforcement.. but he is so familiar, so comfortable, he is funny and unbelievably HOT... the sexual tension is so thick you can cut it with a knife when we are in the same room. We send flirty texts,in between seeing each other. If we ever kiss.. wow at the sparks that would be had and I am not sure if we could stop things at just a kiss. It is nice having someone know me since middle school. Know my friends, know my family, where i came from without having to explain it all. But is this why i am attracted? I would like to think it is apart.. But really we both have had crushes on each other since 6th grade.. that is crazy. Crazy we both have had crushes and neither acted on it. Crazy we grew up with the same friends went in different directions (completely different direction) yet still coincided at times and didn't even know it. What will happen? only time will tell. For now I am enjoying this flirting. Crushes are good :)

The Best of the Goodbyes

As far as goodbyes go.. this one was good.. He hugged me so tight and just kept hugging.. I cried.. he teared up.. and hugged me tighter.. kissed my head.. kissed me.. and kept kissing me.. and hugging me, and kissing until he finally picked me up still kissing me and carried me to what was our room. We made love one last time. Got dressed.. hugged so more.. kissed so more.. said we loved each other.. kissed hugged.. said goodbye.. he looked at me with those piercing blue eyes and said he would call later and for me to be careful driving to tally.. he left just like he was going to work.. but he’s not coming back this time.

I feel relieved.. I miss the good side of him, I miss the life I thought we were going to have, but I do not miss the bad side of him the rude side.. but I do miss that good guy that I once knew. The sweet boy who would bring me home banana pudding because he knew how much I loved it. Who checked on me because he wanted to know how i was. Who would come over in the morning just because he wanted to see me. The man who couldn't stop kissing me .. The man that would make all my stress go away.. now he's the cause of the stress. I feel like a weight is lifted and though I miss my friend.. the person I have confided in for the past 3 years.. I know that I am better off. I know he is better off. He needs to find himself and be happy. I am happy. I love myself and who I am.. I hope that for him as well.