Day 201- 2012 Happy Happy Happy

People spend a lifetime searching for peace and happiness in other things and other people, hoping to fill the emptiness they feel. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within! When you are content to be simply yourself you find the happiness you were seeking!

I was one of those people at one point in my life. I was always looking for things that would make me happy.  I have learned over the years that they more I simplify my life and look inward, the happier I am.   The more I stopped looking at what Mrs. Jones has and comparing myself to someone that I am nothing alike, the happier I am.  That person who has it all,  may not. They may be up to their eyeballs in credit card debit, they may have had  a rich family member leave them money, they may be barely making it and are just keeping up appearances.   Never compare yourself to others. You are you, you are unique, you are the only person that can make you happy.  Not a spouse, not taking the quick way to lose weight, not having new clothes, car, house etc.  You have the ability within to make you happy.  A little overweight?  that is ok.. love yourself and prove to yourself you love you  but working out and eating right.  Want a new car, save up the money and buy one.  Want to go on vacation, work a 2nd job to make the money to do it.  Want to stop being negative, consciously stop yourself when you have a negative thought.  replace the negative with a positive   Keep it up until you automatically look at the glass as half full.   It is hard. but I promise it and you are worth the effort!

Day 201 - Reaching for the stars

Within you, there is patience, strength, love, determination and passion (as well as many more attributes). Utilize what is within you, reach for the stars and your dreams will come true!  

Nothing is out of reach, if you try.  so many people give up before trying.  Those people will never know what it feels to accomplish something.  They feel the world owes them.  They are not good people to hang out with/  Those types of people use you, and abuse you and pull you down to their level.  You want to be around people who pull you up and make you a better person. 


Hang out with people who make you smile; laugh often and from the belly; Love truly and deeply; Do what makes you happy. If you do not know what that is.. figure it out! Life is way too short to go through it being miserable!

Day 200 - 2012 Man PMS

So funny, the more I talk to friends about their husbands, it becomes more and more apparent, men go through PMS once a month as well. Though instead of bleeding like a stuck pig, they go back to being happy creatures, with no recollection of their PMS symptoms.  It is just a few days of moodiness that is completely unbearable.  Things are said that they do not mean. Then like nothing happened, poof, they are back to the normal loving men that we love.

B was back to being his sweet loving self.  So funny how a day changes an attitude.   So glad his PMS time is over with for this month.  Just wish it did not coincide with mine :D

Researchers have found that men really do suffer from a condition they have dubbed Irritable Male Syndrome.  They experience anger, anxiety, irritability, hypersensitivity.  So the slightest thing you do can set them off (sound familiar?).  They can even experience, lack of sexual arousal, headaches, stomach cramps, hot flashes, back aches and sexual dysfunction (which i am sure leads to more of the anger and irritability).

So the moral of today's post.  Love your man, even when he goes through his time of month.  Be patient and in a few days, it will all be over and he will forget that he even went through "his time of the month"


Have a great day!

Day 199-2012 love

Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. When you love someone (friend/family/partner), you want to do things to make them happy, as in return it makes you happy. You do not do them because you have too, you do it because you want too. 

This was cause for an argument this weekend.  I did B's laundry, cooked him dinner (that he didn't eat) and a whole bunch of other stuff, because he was dog dead tired and I knew it needed to be done. I did not get a thank you, I got a "I could have done it myself, it was my responsibility"  okay.. you are right, but i wanted too, because I wanted to make you happy, like you bought stuff to make me my fave dessert. 

He doesn't get it, he is so independent, he is having a hard time, letting someone in.  I know he loves me,  I never had any doubts about us, until this week.  This week he told me he has doubts (first I heard of this) then he leaves for work out of town for a week.  YAY!  That helps me feel loved.   I guess the honeymoon phase is over.  life is not all peaches and rainbows, people fight when they care about someone else,  and that sometimes people do nice things just because they love the other person.  Life is never easy, but I would not enjoy life if it were easy and all rainbows and such.  

I will continue to be happy, and to try to make others happy.  As someone else's mood does not effect mine.  I control me.  Either you want to be around me or you do not.  Either way, my life goes on.. and it goes on in a very happy way :)


Today I challenge you to do something just to make someone else happy!

Day 198 - 2012 already tired tuesday

I am already tired and it is only Tuesday.  I think it is because so many people do not think for themselves anymore.  Today it seems that people lack common sense and are just trained monkeys.

"Common sense is the knack of seeing things as they are, and doing things as they ought to be done"... Harriet Beecher Stowe

I cannot tell you how many times someone asks a question that they have the same exact resources as I do, to find out the answer, yet I am the one giving it to them.  I try to show them where it is, but they do not care.   Are they a trained monkey, or selfish and think their time is more important than mine, or just really that dumb/lazy?  It seems more and more, like parents do so much for their kids, that the kids are never taught to figure things out for themselves. Sure you can cook dinner faster/shop/pick up the house/pay bills/etc.  without the kids, but teaching them makes them productive adults.   They grow up being trained monkeys.  Instead of realizing they can do things themselves, they like to be told what to do.  These of course are the same people who bring only complaints and no solutions.  We are raising a bunch of trained monkeys.  It is sad, very sad.  I hope if I have kids one day that I will not raise trained monkeys but productive members of society!

Today try, figuring out something yourself, even if it is diffcult, as the answer, is probably right in front of your face, you just have to look for it.

Day 197 - 2012 who the #€+=* did I marry?

Wow so today I decided to watch "Who the $&*# did I marry?". I feel like I lived that but wasn't married. I felt that way about my ex when we broke and so many things came to light. These men loved their wives but all (so far) they all are so selfish and such liars. Their lies and the stress of it all, catch up to them. But totally remind me women's intuition is so strong and usually right. I am so thankful I got out of that relationship before he dragged me down that hole he went down.

I know B gets irritated when I am so focused on communication but I feel like it is key to a relationship. Key for you to know what the other is thinking. And key that both tell the truth even if it hurts a bit. I never want to go down that rabbits hole again! I never want to ignore my instinct again and I always want to trust my partner and e able to communicate even if the conversation is hard or uncomfortable.

Here's to communication in all aspects of life!

Day 196-2012 Evil J

Some days I have a very evil side.  She is fun to play with, as long as you are not on her bad side.  She toys with people like a cat toys with a mouse.  Some days she makes people cry, not on purpose, but she just has no filter whatsoever. She tells lots of jokes, is a little hyper and likes to call people out when they lie, act stupid or are just in general not nice or ethical.   She is a ball of fun.. as long as you do not take things personally :)

Day 195 - 2012 setbacks

Life is full of many setbacks. Your success is determined by how you handle those setbacks!

Wow this statement hits home.  I have had tons of setbacks, from changing careers, credit card debit, to being engaged to a complete loser and not realizing it.  Love is blind right?  To being passed over for promotions or recognition's even if multiple people recommend me for recognition.  I always seem one step behind.  I do not let this get to me, well not always.   I understand things happen.  I like to think the trials I go through make me a better person.  I know dealing with a loser fiance, has gotten me ready for having a rebellious teenager, as that is  how he acted.  Credit card debit has taught me how to better manage my money.  Changing careers has gotten me into a career i enjoy even if I  continually get passed over for things.  I have learned skills that will help me in the future.  

I can choose to look at things negatively, or look at the setbacks and learn from them, so I can do things better or differently in the future.   Life will not always go your way, but you can let ti get to you, or can make the most of it.   Today I am making the most of it!

Day 194-2012 9-11

Wow today marks the anniversary of a terrible tragedy that will haunt my generation for years to come.  Like  our parents generation who can remember exactly where they were during the Kennedy assassination, or those 10 years old who know exactly where they were when the shuttle blew up, my generation will always remember exactly where we were when we heard the twin towers were hit and crumbled down.    I am getting chills just writing this.  I remember the fear for friends who worked in the towers.  Not knowing if I would ever see them again. Watching in horror as news reporters made it to the scene and the towers started crumbling down.  The dust, the blood, the tears, the chaos.  I remember, I was in the car, heading home to Coral Gables from a friends house in South Miami.  I was driving on the interstate and could not believe the news I was hearing on the radio.  It had to be a joke right?, wrong.  I got home to find my roommate in front of the tv glued.  We both frantically trying to call friends, to make sure they were okay, but got busy tones, as the cell towers were full of others doing the same thing. We sat there most of the day watching in horror, dialing our phones, until we reached people slowly. That day marks a day, where a great tragedy happened, yet the american people came together as one, against one common enemy.  We sent out good thoughts to the rescuers, hoping that they would find many alive.  Thoughts to the families of the ones that were lost/missing.  Thoughts to the brave men, women and animals that spent countless hours doing search and rescue and search and recover.

We will never forget the bravery and the loss!  

Day 193 -2012 Let Happiness win

“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson..... Choose to let go of the anger, and let happiness win, it may take some work, but it is oh so worth it!

This one I think everyone struggles with.  People want to vent or share, others want to hear and commiserate.  If I vent, it makes me relive the anger and it festers.  I prefer to let go. If not, the anger just keeps rising.  I choose to hold on to that happy thought, then to relish in the angry thought.  Some days I fail, but I am only human.  I forgive myself and move on.

Today do not let the anger win.  Choose to be happy and let go over anger!

Day 192-2012. Love my porch

I love my front porch. It's screened in with a wicker love seat and a spot for the dogs to hang out and see over the brick to the street. Our street is always busy with people walking to and fro. I love living in a city. I love seeing people but not having to talk to them. Just a wave hello or a nod. I love seeing people walk instead of drive. I love the fresh air, the birds tweeting and watching the occasional people and cars whiz by. I love the old houses and all the history that surrounds me. Stories untold, life's that were lived.

The sky is full of turmoil and mist. The breeze is light but cool. Fall is in the air and I am sipping on my pumpkin spice coffee B was so sweet to bring me this morning. Mmmmm I do one pumpkin spice. We did not do our normal Sunday brunch date. But the letting me sleep in. pumpkin spice and my porch, more than make up for it!

Enjoy your day and surroundings.

Day 191 - 2012 Be yourself

Try to be happy to be yourself.. Do not compare yourself to others. Do not try to keep up with the Jones'. Everyone walks a different path. Just be the best you, that you can be! That is all anyone can ask of you and you will be a very happy person by being just you!

Day 190 - 2012 Laughing

Laughing is contagious, laughs makes your heart and others hearts smile, laughing picks you up on a bad day, belly laughs count as exercise, laughing is amazing medicine and is over all just good for you. Take some time and laugh.. really laugh.. I promise it will make you really happy!

Last night, two friends and I made another tables night, from us laughing continually and just having a good time together.  It was the best medicine I could have gotten for a long stressful week.  I love my friends and how much fun we have even if we do nothing!

Feeling down?  grab a friend and laugh.  You can find humor in anything even the bad stuff!

Day 189 - 2012 I do not speak idiot

Wow some days people make things so much harder on themselves.  Not sure if we are all so busy now that we cannot slow down and think for ourselves, expect others to keep us organized or are just plain dumb.   Today I realize, that even though sometimes it seems like I do, I do not speak idiot.  I do not like my time wasted and do not have time for people who cannot think for themselves.

I also do not like rude people...  I like nice people, and puppies and rainbows and sunshine ooh and pretty things!  I definitely do not speak idiot most days.. but occasionally will figure out what they need.

Ahhhh if only like were idiot, rude people free.... ahhh utopia.. a girl can dream :)

Day 188 - 2012 Smiling

Smiling is good for you and good for others


According to some reports, there are 10 benefits of smiling. There might well be others, but these 10 often are quoted and are worth remembering:

1. Smiling makes us attractive. We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good.

2. Smiling changes our mood. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.

3. Smiling is contagious. A smiling person brings happiness with them, changes the moods of others and makes things happier.

4. Smiling relieves stress. Stress can really show up in our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down and overwhelmed.

5. Smiling boosts the immune system. When you smile, immune function improves, possibly because you are more relaxed.

6. Smiling can lower blood pressure. When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure.

7. Smiling releases endorphins, natural painkillers and serotonin. Together, these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.

8. Smiling can make you look younger and give you a natural facelift. The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger.

9. Smiling can make you seem successful. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments, and people will react differently to you.

10. Smiling helps you stay positive. When we smile, our body is sending the rest of us a message that life is good.

And, of course, smiling doesn’t cost a thing. If smiling is a natural drug, I think just about everyone should become addicted.

Have a smiley day!

Day 187-2012 Busy weekend

For a 3 day weekend, this weekend has been slam packed.  I have had multiple dates (with the same guy, I am not a floozie), I have hosted a dinner party, We have cleaned off the front porch, as well as cleaned the house twice.  The backyard is looking amazing even if it is empty.. better than all weedy like it was.  Finally, I am able to sit in front of the tv, with my computer and blog (YAY!)  and it is a NCIS marathon double YAY!  not a bad weekend at all, even if I did not make it to the beach. :(