Day 111

"Take time to get to know others before judging them.  Too often we judge people on too little information. Instead of judging someone based on what they do or where they are in their life, figure out why they do what they do and how they got to where they are.  More than likely your orginal assumption was wrong."

This is one that gets me time and time again.  I hear people making assumptions about others without any basis other than "they think they are right", rather than get to know someone.  Just because someone is dressed a certain way, doesn't make them a bad person.  I have a friend that by looking at him, you would think he did not shower, had bad poor hygiene, was not so smart and maybe even a little slow. In reality, he has hormone issues, which cause some of the hygiene issues.. he actually does shower, he is one of the smartest people  I know and has a heart the size of Texas  But if you just looked at him.  You would get none of that.

Sometimes people are too close to situation to take a step back and look at the situation objectively.  They get defensive when no defense needs to be taken.  Someone once told me that,  "a  sign of a good leader was a person who could keep a stone face in the worst of times and never show weakness by letting others know they were hurt".  That is hard.  It is hard to be called names or told you cannot do something without feeling hurt, anger and a variety of other emotions.  I become more and more like stone faced for lack of better words, every day.  I try to not judge those who are giving me feedback, and listen.  Learn, grow become a better me.  I like that I am slowly letting go of the judgmental, defensive Jamie and am opening my mind to a whole new world and a whole new me.   It is hard to be objective and not take things personally.  But unless it is in my personal life, I really try to leave my ego at the door.  I definitely like my life better when I do that.

I struggle on this one.  If i am around others who do not judge, i tend to not judge, if I am around those who do, it is a struggle not too follow the herd.  Looks like it may be time to clean house again and purge out some negative folks.   I have such a want to help and assist other in any aspect of life they need help in.  Makes me sad, when I cannot help. If everyone just gave others a chance, were more open less judgmental, we all would be happier.      perfect world... does not exist ;(  that makes me sad.  But I will not give up the dream.  At least one day I hope to be surrounded by others who want the same!