Post 17, 2014 Loving your child

Lately I have heard so many parents venting about their kids. They hate this, they hate that, why can't they just do xyz.   Some down right say they hate their kids. Maybe I am just too new to this Mommyhood thing, but you hate your kids?  I mean they are little people who came into this world with a blank slate. You cannot expect them to act like an adult. Even my husband sometimes says things to our 10 month old and i am like, "really? he is 10 months old.. it takes a lot or repetition for him to catch on." I mean I do not want a hair puller or biter either, but he is 10 months old. You see i am more of a peaceful attachment parent, my husband is more of spare the rod, spoil the child.  Where I think me being spanked, just made me fear my parents and learn to lie, he thinks it helped him. Two different parenting styles that have to figure out a way to mesh together. Not so easy. The one thing we agree on, is we love our child. We really really love him. We hit the kid lotto with him. He has his moments, but he is a happy happy  baby. Some people say it is because B and I are so happy and laid back. I would love it if that were true, but i guess we will never know until we have a 2nd if we do. For now I will take my happy go lucky baby.

I even on the days where he's tired and cranky do I love my child.  I can't expect him to always be happy when we as adults aren't. As adults we are not always pleasant to be around, and we can express ourselves.  They can cry and scream. Everyone has bad days and being  a kid who cannot communicate seems like it would be a little scary. I mean you have gas and it hurts as an adult, you know why, as a baby, you just know you are in pain.  You do not know it will pass, and you cannot ask for medication to help with the pain, so you cry. Someone tells you "no" or "stop" as an adult, you understand why, and it stings but you deal with it. (well some people deal with it). As a child. you cry, you pitch a fit (some adults never grow out of this). It is my job as a parent to teach my little one how to express himself without pitching a fit, or I will end up with one of those adults they never grow out of it. Kids get angry, and they do not know how to express themselves. It builds up and they pop!  Adults who do not learn how to deal with their emotions as a child, have the same issues when they get older.   We cannot hold our kids to the same standards we do adults. We have to teach them, and teaching them take time, patience and a whole lot of love. I cannot imagine giving up my child to my husband and saying, "take him he is yours"  That would make my heart hurt and honestly probably kill me.

Love your child, even on the days you do not like them. Love them and feel their love back. They love you whole-heartedly. Nothing is better than seeing my child smile! Melts me every time. And his giggles.. oh his giggles, I always hope he finds me as funny as he does at this moment in time, as I am the most hilarious person to him and I LOVE that!  Your child can help boost your confidence if you let them!

Your child did not choose to come into this world, you chose for them. Nurture them, teach them, be patient with them, learn from them, and love them! Love them for them. Whether they are moody or happy go lucky, love them. A loved child that feels secure, will become a well adjusted confident adult. It is proven time and time again.  Ignoring them, not showing them love, and always belittling them, will produce a insecure unhappy adult, and who wants that?  Some say loving them too much spoils them, no giving them everything they want, spoils them. Loving them, making them feel secure costs nothing, but will produce a very amazing and awesome product!

What are some of your favorite things about your child??