Post 99, 2013 Walking away

"Feeling bad vibes from a situation or person? Give yourself permission to walk away. No explanation is needed, just trust yourself and what you are feeling. 9 times out of ten (and usually 10 out of 10) you will not be wrong and might just save yourself some heartache or something worse!"  Moi

I have written on something similar to this before but, if you get a bad vibe, walk away. It doesn't matter if it is a party, an interview, or a person, walk away. If you get a bad vibe every time you hang out with someone, do not hang out with them anymore, no explanation is needed, just "sorry I cannot I am busy". They will eventually move on.  If it is a situation, get out of it as soon as there is a way too. You never know what could happen and you are better safe then sorry by walking away. I remember once going in for an interview and I saw a very familiar Rhino head, which is the logo for a pyramid scheme I fell for once. I went up to the receptionist and said, " I am sorry, I am not going to be able to interview, I am sorry for wasting your bosses time, have a great day," and left. I should have trusted my bad vibe before every going in there, but once I saw that I knew I needed to leave, they have a way of sucking you in and I did not want to be apart of that again. I have gone to parties or clubs before where I just got a bad feeling, I left without saying anything, and sure enough every time, after I find out something bad went down. I could have been caught up in that and luckily i was not.   My ex, there was something always off but I just attributed that to me being scared, as I am always scared. I was wrong and should have trusted that feeling as he turned out to be a bad bad person. He put on a great front and I think wanted to be a good person, but he just does not know how not to be a bad selfish person. I would have saved myself a lot of heartache and a lot of money had I just walked away when i had the chance. 

So the moral today is walk away. Doesn't matter what the situation is, if you have a bad feeling, walk away. It really will save you in the long run!  

Post 98, 2013 You cannot fix stupid

This week there has been an overabundance of not so smart things either said to me or done by others that just leaves my head shaking. Now I am not the smartest girl around, I do okay. I do try to think things through before talking or asking a question, or even see if I can use my old trusty friend Mr. Google and find the answer. I really try not to take some of these people and their actions personally, as I think it is just their personality. But some seem to just have started acting like this, which leads me to believe it is personal, as others saw this in their behavior a long time ago and I am just seeing it. Either it is personal or I am just blind.. naive.. whatever.  I do like to see the best in people.  I have tried for weeks even months at this point to be very nice, answer questions and not let them get to me. Today I hit my breaking point and realized I cannot fix stupid or rude people. It is their issue not mine. I need to not take it personally and realize whatever they have going on seems to over take their ability to think for themselves and not be rude to others. I kind of feel bad for them. I never want to be a rude person or a person who cannot think for myself. I want to see my faults so I can work on them. I am not perfect nor will I ever be but at least I know that and can work on being a better person. If you think that you are perfect then you are very wrong and go under the "stupid" category.

Always seek to improve yourself and if multiple people have the same issue with you, let me give you a hint.. it is not them.. it is YOU!

Post 97, 2013 Grudges

I read a blog post the other day about mean girls.  You know the type, they were mean to you in school, called you names, picked on you because you were not like them etc. The blog talked about how some of them grew up and still were mean girls, that are now mean moms teaching their girls to be mean girls. The cycle never breaks. I really loved that post because it is so true. Not all mean girls grow up to be mean moms, but there are a few that do. Or the few that cannot get over high school. For whatever reason they are still holding a grudge on something that you may or may not remember even happening. You may not even know you upset them or made them feel a certain way. I know back in high school I always tried to be nice to people but if I felt threatened or uncomfortable I just didn't talk to that person. I wasn't mean but I wasn't nice either. It wasn't until I was comfortable in my own skin that I did not let how I perceived them effect me. If you do not smile at me, I am still going to smile at you. If you do not say hello, that is okay I am still going to say hello. I like to believe that everyone has changed for the better, and that we grow out of our pettiness. I have learned that is not true, but I still hope it is and still believe that it may happen. I do not get holding grudges, especially for something that may or may not have happened 20 plus years ago. Why not give the person a benefit of the doubt and see if they have changed into a better person. Or maybe that person just was shy or like me didn't know how to act, so they did nothing at all, yet you perceived it as them being mean or whatever. Maybe you listened to a rumor that was untrue and that person has no idea why you are mad. And really you are still mad?  Let go of the past and look to the future. Teach your kids to let go and move forward. Holding grudges does nothing but bring you down and make YOU miserable. It does not effect the other person at all. I can tell you if you hold a grudge against me, I probably have no idea, nor woudl I care. I will still treat you nicely. Your attitude or perception does not effect me in the least!

Forgive, let go and move forward.. you will be happier because of it and a weight will be lifted!!!!

Post 96, 2013 There you are girl

I received a huge compliment today.. at least I took it as a huge compliment.

I was sent this article: http://www.thehouseofhendrix.com/2013/09/24/2-types-of-women-here-i-am-or-there-you-are/ with a note that said: "You are definitely a there you are girl! I saw this and immediately thought of you. I love you bunches."

I had never really thought about it before. I just do what comes naturally but I love love love that this girl wrote this article and that one of my friends thought of me and sent it to me. It made my day. 

Here is the image out of here but you should really read the blog post. it really breaks down the differences.

I am so thankful that I am a "There you are" girl without even realizing that I was one! Being a There you are girl makes me happy, as I love making others happy. I love making others smile with a smile. I do try to greet people, as it makes them feel good, no one likes to be ignored!  I love love love giving compliments!  There is never a reason not too (i will also tell you if you need to brush your hair but it is really done out of love).  Eye contact is important!  Otherwise how do you know I am talking to you!  Everyone should feel important! And you and your family are important especially to me. I want to know if they made the sports team and how they are doing in school. Those things matter just like when we were kids how your new boyfriend, what  college you were going too  or you were doing on a sports team mattered. I am all about letting you know I made a fool out of myself or how I devoured the salted caramel ice cream (yum)!  Oh and how my husband is like most husbands and has to be told to do something multiple times, for me to do it myself and he get mad because I didn't let him do it. I love to make others laugh!  Laughter is good for the soul and well makes me happy! If it makes me happy then it has to make you happy too right?

I am so thankful for my friends and am very thankful for being a "There you are girl" I would not trade it for the world!  

Here is too all the "There you are girls" out there and all you do to make others happy as well!

Post 95, 2013 Great first baby shower

We had our first baby shower this weekend and my sister, our moms and my moms friends out did themselves. It was great, the food the decor and just the people I would have wanted to see!  We got tons of gifts a lot of them homemade, which makes my heart smile!  This boy is so lucky and loved already!  Cannot wait for round 2!

Post 94, 2013 - Optimism

"I am an optimist. It does not seem too much use being anything else." Winston Churchill

This particularly rings true this weekend. We had an almost stolen bike off our front porch. We live in a downtown area, lots of foot traffic and a bus stop two houses down. We have had a dog that barks for the past 4 years so no one has attempted to steal anything off the front porch and we got a little used to that. Well Saturday morning they tried and apparently me waking up early to work out thwarted the robbery, so they left it standing with the door open. I looked at it as, well they bikes should have been locked up and they obviously needed it more than us. My hubby not so much. It really made his blood boil. To give him credit it was his bike. This isn't the first theft from the porch, 6 years ago I had my lawn mower stolen. People would rather steal than work for something. It is sad, but I am not going to let their lack of morals effect my attitude. They are sucky people who have a sucky life. We at least can afford a new mower, bike etc. We have a good life, a roof over our heads, cars that work, a loving marriage, awesome pets, and a baby on the way. Life is good. I choose to see the glass half full. It makes me happy to see the glass half full. It is not worth my time or energy to get angry and see the glass as half empty.   I choose happiness.  What would you choose?

Post 93 - 2013 carpet

Yay our carpet is almost completely done   Our room and the dining room look normal. The rest of the house not so much.  Our cat is super happy. The dog not so much. Though the cat is so sweet and goes to lay with the dog in the kitchen/laundry area where he's being kept (away from the carpet).

It's like we moved into a new house.  It makes me so happy. I've been able to clean out lots of old things which is freeing up more room. Plus the colors we picked and so calming   I'm a very happy girl! 

Hope everyone has a great day!  Thanks for reading!!!