People spend a lifetime searching for peace and happiness in other things and other people, hoping to fill the emptiness they feel. The irony is the only place they ever needed to search was within! When you are content to be simply yourself you find the happiness you were seeking!
I was one of those people at one point in my life. I was always looking for things that would make me happy. I have learned over the years that they more I simplify my life and look inward, the happier I am. The more I stopped looking at what Mrs. Jones has and comparing myself to someone that I am nothing alike, the happier I am. That person who has it all, may not. They may be up to their eyeballs in credit card debit, they may have had a rich family member leave them money, they may be barely making it and are just keeping up appearances. Never compare yourself to others. You are you, you are unique, you are the only person that can make you happy. Not a spouse, not taking the quick way to lose weight, not having new clothes, car, house etc. You have the ability within to make you happy. A little overweight? that is ok.. love yourself and prove to yourself you love you but working out and eating right. Want a new car, save up the money and buy one. Want to go on vacation, work a 2nd job to make the money to do it. Want to stop being negative, consciously stop yourself when you have a negative thought. replace the negative with a positive Keep it up until you automatically look at the glass as half full. It is hard. but I promise it and you are worth the effort!
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Friday, September 28, 2012
Thursday, September 27, 2012
Day 201 - Reaching for the stars
Within you, there is patience, strength, love, determination and passion (as well as many more attributes). Utilize what is within you, reach for the stars and your dreams will come true!
Nothing is out of reach, if you try. so many people give up before trying. Those people will never know what it feels to accomplish something. They feel the world owes them. They are not good people to hang out with/ Those types of people use you, and abuse you and pull you down to their level. You want to be around people who pull you up and make you a better person.
Hang out with people who make you smile; laugh often and from the belly; Love truly and deeply; Do what makes you happy. If you do not know what that is.. figure it out! Life is way too short to go through it being miserable!
Nothing is out of reach, if you try. so many people give up before trying. Those people will never know what it feels to accomplish something. They feel the world owes them. They are not good people to hang out with/ Those types of people use you, and abuse you and pull you down to their level. You want to be around people who pull you up and make you a better person.
Hang out with people who make you smile; laugh often and from the belly; Love truly and deeply; Do what makes you happy. If you do not know what that is.. figure it out! Life is way too short to go through it being miserable!
Friday, September 21, 2012
Day 200 - 2012 Man PMS
So funny, the more I talk to friends about their husbands, it becomes more and more apparent, men go through PMS once a month as well. Though instead of bleeding like a stuck pig, they go back to being happy creatures, with no recollection of their PMS symptoms. It is just a few days of moodiness that is completely unbearable. Things are said that they do not mean. Then like nothing happened, poof, they are back to the normal loving men that we love.
B was back to being his sweet loving self. So funny how a day changes an attitude. So glad his PMS time is over with for this month. Just wish it did not coincide with mine :D
Researchers have found that men really do suffer from a condition they have dubbed Irritable Male Syndrome. They experience anger, anxiety, irritability, hypersensitivity. So the slightest thing you do can set them off (sound familiar?). They can even experience, lack of sexual arousal, headaches, stomach cramps, hot flashes, back aches and sexual dysfunction (which i am sure leads to more of the anger and irritability).
So the moral of today's post. Love your man, even when he goes through his time of month. Be patient and in a few days, it will all be over and he will forget that he even went through "his time of the month"
Have a great day!
B was back to being his sweet loving self. So funny how a day changes an attitude. So glad his PMS time is over with for this month. Just wish it did not coincide with mine :D
Researchers have found that men really do suffer from a condition they have dubbed Irritable Male Syndrome. They experience anger, anxiety, irritability, hypersensitivity. So the slightest thing you do can set them off (sound familiar?). They can even experience, lack of sexual arousal, headaches, stomach cramps, hot flashes, back aches and sexual dysfunction (which i am sure leads to more of the anger and irritability).
So the moral of today's post. Love your man, even when he goes through his time of month. Be patient and in a few days, it will all be over and he will forget that he even went through "his time of the month"
Have a great day!
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Day 199-2012 love
Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own. When you love someone (friend/family/partner), you want to do things to make them happy, as in return it makes you happy. You do not do them because you have too, you do it because you want too.
This was cause for an argument this weekend. I did B's laundry, cooked him dinner (that he didn't eat) and a whole bunch of other stuff, because he was dog dead tired and I knew it needed to be done. I did not get a thank you, I got a "I could have done it myself, it was my responsibility" okay.. you are right, but i wanted too, because I wanted to make you happy, like you bought stuff to make me my fave dessert.
He doesn't get it, he is so independent, he is having a hard time, letting someone in. I know he loves me, I never had any doubts about us, until this week. This week he told me he has doubts (first I heard of this) then he leaves for work out of town for a week. YAY! That helps me feel loved. I guess the honeymoon phase is over. life is not all peaches and rainbows, people fight when they care about someone else, and that sometimes people do nice things just because they love the other person. Life is never easy, but I would not enjoy life if it were easy and all rainbows and such.
I will continue to be happy, and to try to make others happy. As someone else's mood does not effect mine. I control me. Either you want to be around me or you do not. Either way, my life goes on.. and it goes on in a very happy way :)
Today I challenge you to do something just to make someone else happy!
This was cause for an argument this weekend. I did B's laundry, cooked him dinner (that he didn't eat) and a whole bunch of other stuff, because he was dog dead tired and I knew it needed to be done. I did not get a thank you, I got a "I could have done it myself, it was my responsibility" okay.. you are right, but i wanted too, because I wanted to make you happy, like you bought stuff to make me my fave dessert.
He doesn't get it, he is so independent, he is having a hard time, letting someone in. I know he loves me, I never had any doubts about us, until this week. This week he told me he has doubts (first I heard of this) then he leaves for work out of town for a week. YAY! That helps me feel loved. I guess the honeymoon phase is over. life is not all peaches and rainbows, people fight when they care about someone else, and that sometimes people do nice things just because they love the other person. Life is never easy, but I would not enjoy life if it were easy and all rainbows and such.
I will continue to be happy, and to try to make others happy. As someone else's mood does not effect mine. I control me. Either you want to be around me or you do not. Either way, my life goes on.. and it goes on in a very happy way :)
Today I challenge you to do something just to make someone else happy!
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Day 198 - 2012 already tired tuesday
I am already tired and it is only Tuesday. I think it is because so many people do not think for themselves anymore. Today it seems that people lack common sense and are just trained monkeys.
"Common sense is the knack of seeing things as they are, and doing things as they ought to be done"... Harriet Beecher Stowe
I cannot tell you how many times someone asks a question that they have the same exact resources as I do, to find out the answer, yet I am the one giving it to them. I try to show them where it is, but they do not care. Are they a trained monkey, or selfish and think their time is more important than mine, or just really that dumb/lazy? It seems more and more, like parents do so much for their kids, that the kids are never taught to figure things out for themselves. Sure you can cook dinner faster/shop/pick up the house/pay bills/etc. without the kids, but teaching them makes them productive adults. They grow up being trained monkeys. Instead of realizing they can do things themselves, they like to be told what to do. These of course are the same people who bring only complaints and no solutions. We are raising a bunch of trained monkeys. It is sad, very sad. I hope if I have kids one day that I will not raise trained monkeys but productive members of society!
Today try, figuring out something yourself, even if it is diffcult, as the answer, is probably right in front of your face, you just have to look for it.
"Common sense is the knack of seeing things as they are, and doing things as they ought to be done"... Harriet Beecher Stowe
I cannot tell you how many times someone asks a question that they have the same exact resources as I do, to find out the answer, yet I am the one giving it to them. I try to show them where it is, but they do not care. Are they a trained monkey, or selfish and think their time is more important than mine, or just really that dumb/lazy? It seems more and more, like parents do so much for their kids, that the kids are never taught to figure things out for themselves. Sure you can cook dinner faster/shop/pick up the house/pay bills/etc. without the kids, but teaching them makes them productive adults. They grow up being trained monkeys. Instead of realizing they can do things themselves, they like to be told what to do. These of course are the same people who bring only complaints and no solutions. We are raising a bunch of trained monkeys. It is sad, very sad. I hope if I have kids one day that I will not raise trained monkeys but productive members of society!
Today try, figuring out something yourself, even if it is diffcult, as the answer, is probably right in front of your face, you just have to look for it.
Sunday, September 16, 2012
Day 197 - 2012 who the #€+=* did I marry?
Wow so today I decided to watch "Who the $&*# did I marry?". I feel like I lived that but wasn't married. I felt that way about my ex when we broke and so many things came to light. These men loved their wives but all (so far) they all are so selfish and such liars. Their lies and the stress of it all, catch up to them. But totally remind me women's intuition is so strong and usually right. I am so thankful I got out of that relationship before he dragged me down that hole he went down.
I know B gets irritated when I am so focused on communication but I feel like it is key to a relationship. Key for you to know what the other is thinking. And key that both tell the truth even if it hurts a bit. I never want to go down that rabbits hole again! I never want to ignore my instinct again and I always want to trust my partner and e able to communicate even if the conversation is hard or uncomfortable.
Here's to communication in all aspects of life!
I know B gets irritated when I am so focused on communication but I feel like it is key to a relationship. Key for you to know what the other is thinking. And key that both tell the truth even if it hurts a bit. I never want to go down that rabbits hole again! I never want to ignore my instinct again and I always want to trust my partner and e able to communicate even if the conversation is hard or uncomfortable.
Here's to communication in all aspects of life!
Friday, September 14, 2012
Day 196-2012 Evil J
Some days I have a very evil side. She is fun to play with, as long as you are not on her bad side. She toys with people like a cat toys with a mouse. Some days she makes people cry, not on purpose, but she just has no filter whatsoever. She tells lots of jokes, is a little hyper and likes to call people out when they lie, act stupid or are just in general not nice or ethical. She is a ball of fun.. as long as you do not take things personally :)
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