day 124

Apparently I started this but never posted

Yay for getting through another year and yay for finding me again. So many people look for others to be happy. But that never works. Others will always disappoint. So learn to make you happy and other stuff will fall it place! Bye bye 2011 hello 2012

Day 123

"You are not alone. Everyone has problems. Some people are just better at hiding them than others!"

Some weeks I am awesome and do not tell one thing that is happening bad in my life. I keep it all inside and do other things to help relieve the stress.  If I talk about it, the situation increases size in my mind.  It can get out of control quickly.    Some weeks I vent out loud, quickly and to the point but still I vent. Venting is a habit that is bad for me and hard to break. I think I have it under control but alas.. it sneaks up.  I try to remember my issues are small in comparison to others. In all honestly, I have a good life.  I have my own house, car, 4 fabulous animals, friends and family who are just well AH-MAZ-ING!  Literally amazing!  I am such a lucky girl. I am an equal sharer. I share the good and the bad.. but I share none the less.  SO i have to work EXTRA hard to ensure my bad doesn't sneak into the conversation.  Doesn't mean it is not there, just means I keep it hidden a bit.  

So my moral of my blog post is that you really are not alone.  You may think you are but I promise you, that you are not. Someone out there is going through EXACTLY what you are, and the right person will come along to show you that, if you keep your eyes open

Have a fabulous day!

Day 122

Today, since it is the holidays and i am love love love giving gifts (much better than getting them). I asked everyone to share a fave gift they gave someone.  There were a lot of good responses. There are some truly kind people out there.    My fave gift that I gave this year is chalkboard wine glasses. I sprayed the bottoms of wine glasses with chalkboard paint and put a piece of chalk and gave to my fave wine drinking friends.  So stinking cute!  I had fun doing them and picking out the glasses for each person.

Oh and as I was writing I came across this and just thought, wow so true!

Great advice on this site: http://www.divinecaroline.com/22065/35337-wants

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

Slower is better.

Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve; then heck no, you can’t "be friends." A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

Don’t stay because you think "it will get better." You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.

If something bothers you, speak up.

Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.

Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else’s man. Oh Lord!  If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. 

A man will only treat you the way you allow him to treat you.

All men are not dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

You should never look for someone to complete you. A relationship consists of two whole individuals. Look for someone complimentary, not supplementary.

Dating is fun; even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.

Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him—he takes it for granted.

Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need.

Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Share this with other ladies.

You’ll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate

them, a day to love them, and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Day 121

"Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life.   Sometimes there is a back story you do not know about. Try to respect them for who they are and get to know them.  You may just find a friend for life!"

This one gets me sometimes.  You see that girl walk in where tight tight clothes fat rolls hanging out, looking like she just walked out of People of Wal-Mart photos.  I want to judge.  I do.  I know it is wrong. I totally do!  But I really really really want to judge.  I want to make fun of them.  Which is WRONG.   I want to walk up and say "really do you not have a mirror or friends?"  But before i act and judge tooo much, I remember, I have NO idea what is going on in their life.  They could be homeless or just lost everything in a fire.  You just never know.  It is best to not judge a book by it's cover. This person could have an amazing story and touch your life for the better. Why is it so hard to just be nice?    I know this is one I will always struggle with (as i really do not like most people)  but am happy to say I am slowly winning the battle with myself!  Some days that is.  At the moment not so much!  One day at a time..............................................................

Day 120

"A hero is someone who makes a positive difference in someone else’s life.  Why not strive to be someone's hero today?"

How awesome would the world be if everyone tried to make a positive difference in others lives?  So many people are so selfish they cannot see past "what is in it for me?" way of thinking. Close your eyes (well after reading this) and imagine a world where others are helpful, less impatient, say nice things and are dependable.

If people were nicer, then I would want to get out of my nice comfy bed and warm snuggly animals to face the world.  As it stands now, my faith in humanity decreases a little every day.  Then some days my faith is restored by my amazing friends.   I was just sent a text that said  that i was a beautiful person that my daily posts makes this one friend smile and sometimes cry and to never change who I am. That I am beautiful inside and out.   I will admit that made me a little teary. I try to be a good person I really do.  Sometimes I fail but I never stop trying.  So thanks to that special friend who made my morning.  You know who you are ;)

When you think kind thoughts about someone.  Share it with them. I promise you will make their day!  And really what is better than making someone's day?

Day 119

"Sooner or later, you just want to be around the people who make you smile. Cannot wait for all the smiles that I will see this weekend! Have a great one Ya'll :D"


I love making people smile and I love to smile.  Someone asked me if I was ok today, that my FB posts seemed down.  I am like I am fabulous.  My posts are to help others see things in a good positive light.   I love it when I can make a difference  in one persons life. ONE.. that is all I need to know that i helped someone else.  It makes me happy to help others and if random thoughts help, then YAY!!!!  that is a win in my book!.. 


Get out there and smile.  Your smile is contagious!

Day 118

"Living a life of honesty creates  a sense of peace.  Feeling that peace is priceless.
Don’t be dishonest and don’t put up with people who are."

I will be fairly blunt... I have no use for people who lie to me.  Why bother?  I am not a weak girl who cannot handle the truth.  I would rather hear the truth than have someone lie to me.  The dishonesty and lack of trust in me, is what hurts.  Liars think they can get away with things, that the truth will not be known, or that at least when the truth is known they will be far away from the fall out.  They are immature cowards and are not worth your time or energy.  Cut these energy leaches out of your life.   It will make you a much happier person.  Let them hang out with other liars and cowards.  Let them have friends who let them down as much as they let their friends down.  Me?  I would much rather have friends I can count on and I do.  I have managed to weed out the bad eggs to leave room for people who care as much as I do.  Wouldn't the world be a much better place if we all just treated others the way we want to be treated?  I think it would. I would love to live in that kind of world :)

Have a great day peeps!