Post 11, 2014 lonely

Some days I feel alone in my marriage. We got married late in life and are very independent people but I have worked very hard to be one unit and my husband not so much.  I feel like I make one step forward to being one unit and he makes us go two steps back. Not sure what he is holding on to or afraid of. I feel like I'm talking to a wall. I feel like I'm doing all the work and I'm tired. I'm tired and lonely. I miss my partner. He would rather hang out with his phone than his wife  unless he's in the mood. And well he's hard to read and I'm tired of trying and being let down. We can't even plan a date and  we have a sitter. He's stubborn and doesn't want to compromise but if you   ask him he will say he does. Only children are selfish and cannot communicate.  I can't change someone and I'm tired of trying to make him see he's not alone anymore. But a thank you or making a plan would be nice.  I'm tired so tired and teary oh so teary. Hope he gets his head out of his phone soon. 

~a tired wife and mom who feels very under appreciated