Some friends and I were talking the other night about qualities of a Marriage worthy guy and how our views changed from when we were younger, to right before we met our husbands. Funny how that happens right?
When I was younger my list was quite extensive, though here are some exerts that I find comical:
Good looking
Has money
Makes me laugh
Likes to party
Drives a nice car/truck
Then after those guys do not last, you lower your standards to basically breathing. This is the worst mistake you could make. If you do not have some standards, then you are not respecting yourself and if you do not respect yourself how can you expect someone else to respect you????? been there, got the t-shirt ( along with many of my friends). We wondered why we were not finding love, well duh! We did not love ourselves. Once you love yourself and set realistic standards, then you are ready for a marriage worthy guy.
My friends and I agreed on 3 top things that have to be there for a guy to be marriage worthy"
Has to be Nice - meaning nice to me and nice to others
Has to be able to provide a stable income
Has to likes me.
Really those three sum it up. You need to be a good person. You need to be a partner and bring something to the table and well you need to like me.
I will add a little more off the top three. Of course there needs to be an attraction, but friendship goes a long way to making me attracted to you, so does being nice to others. Liking me includes, not lying or cheating and being able to communicate with me (or at least wiling too).
See most girls one day will wake up ( I did say MOST) and realize that the drop dead gorgeous guy with the nice abs, is usually an ass that will cheat on you, and not keep a job, nor be nice to his mother or anyone else for that matter. Their looks will fade. Most of them will end up fat from drinking too much and lose their hair. If you do not like their personality, you are screwed. Looks are like carpets and drapes, you can change the clothes they wear, or the way they style their hair, you can even fix their teeth, you cannot change if a person is not a nice guy or is lazy, in considerate, would rather party than spend a night along with you. The guys that are you party buddies, do not make good boyfriends let along husbands (trust me I have been there). They are fun, the life of the party, but sooner or later they will be the old guy in the bar, as they never want to commit, as they are always looking for something that might be better or more fun than you. As soon as you want to stop partying, they are looking elsewhere. They are the ones that avoid their parents and responsibilities. They are very selfish and like to keep you hanging on. These are not good guys and these are the ones you should stay away from. I have one of my party friends who always wanted to date me, but I kept him at a distance. I loved hanging out with him, there was a very intense attraction, but he annoyed the piss out of me when we were alone and sober, as he was a whiny, needy selfish boy. In a group, he was fun loving, cracking jokes, someone you wanted to be on the arm of. But in private his flaws showed and luckily I was awake enough to recognize that and keep us just friends. He is still a great friend (and has been since 6th grade) and has found a girl who hangs on his every word, who isn't his normal 'standard' but will worship the ground he walks on and that is exactly what he needs.
Where I need someone who is equal and loves me as much as I love them. My guy may not be the guy every girl swoons after, but he is good looking to me, is the kindest man I have ever known, loves his parents, loves my parents, is a hard worker and makes sure I have everything I need, he thinks I am funny and loves hanging out with me. I am glad I waited for a marriage worthy guy to marry! He was totally worth my long wait!
So if you are still single, make sure you are in a good place and wait for that marriage worthy guy and DO NOT settle for someone who is not nice, who cannot provide and who doesn't like you. You are worth more than that!! You deserve the nice guy who can provide for you and who well, likes you!
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